how to make new friends when you have just had a baby
1 CommentMonday, 12 September 2016 | Mummy and Little Me
When you are a new parent it's hard not to feel isolated, I didn't have any friends or family close by that had children and my husband went back to work after 2 weeks so I quickly found myself alone. We lived in the middle of what felt like no where and as my hubby used the car for work I had to walk or get the bus anywhere. It was also hard because I was breastfeeding I was still learning the ropes and didn't want to go out in public just yet. So for about the first 3 months I hardy went out and it was harder than it had to be. Just getting dressed and going out for a short walk lightens up you day, just a reason to brush your hair and put make up on instantly makes you feel like a whole new person in that sleep derived cloud of doom back then.
It wasn't until my breastfeeding peer supporter suggested that I got into town and attend the weekly breastfeeding group, I was nervous at the idea as I wouldn't know anyone but she offered to go with me the first time so I would at least know her. I went and the rest is history, nearly everyone there was in the same boat as me as a new mum just wanting to make some new friends and share stories of our new sleep deprived lives. From that group and word of mouth I found other groups to attend.
These groups have been a lifeline for me and I have made some great friends who I'm sure will be friends for life. Our children are the same age and are friends and they will attend the same schools etc. It is very nerve-wracking going on your own when you don't know people and some places aren't as welcoming with their own little clicks but now I just go regardless. Most other parents are there alone and 'm happy to talk to anyone. As Sophia is an only child I've found that she loves these playgroups so much and she learns a lot and enjoys the interaction with other children such as how to share something that she wouldn't necessarily learn at home. What groups are there
Sometimes you don't feel like being social and just want to rest your voice for a bit or your too tired to function and that's fine, get to that baby group and let your toddler loose and have a warm brew. All mums understand and you don't have to socialize and make conversation all of the time. I've had days where I wanted to sit there with my coat over my head and have a snooze but I didn't, there is always mum who can relate to your zombie state and make your laugh. It is very daunting going to a new group on your own, you worry that everyone has already formed bonds without you and some have, but most ladies are very welcoming. It isn't just mums, sometimes there are more Grandparents, Dads or child minders at these groups, so it's good to get your partner involved to if they want to.- Jodie x www.wiganmum.com