How do you cope with a premature baby?
3 CommentsFriday, 23 March 2018 | Admin
Pregnancy. 40 weeks. Three trimesters. For that time, you plan, you dream, you wish, you stress!
But what if it’s not 40 weeks. What do you do?
What do you do if at 34 weeks you go into labour. Hell, what if you go into labour even earlier!? Panic?
I did. For all of 30 seconds before the mummy instinct in me took over. She’s coming. She’s ready. It’s time.
You see, when you’re pregnant, you attend all your doctors, hospital, pre-natal appointments and learn about what to do in labour, and after, with your new baby.
No one tells you what’ll happen if this all comes that bit too soon. When you’re not ready.
In fact, there are about 15,000,000 babies born prematurely each year. Maybe it’s time we start learning?
When my baby girl, Lily Adeline, was born at 34 weeks, I honestly just assumed we’d be out of the hospital in a day or two. So when the midwife said we may be in till my due date, I was shocked. We have a 7 year old boy, Max, at home, my husband, Tony, runs a restaurant and works long hours, I couldn’t be in for the next six weeks.
Luckily, our baby girl, whilst early, needed little ‘special’ care. The doctors were with us at the ready to resuscitate her upon her arrival but this wasn’t needed. She was perfect. Breathing on her own. Strong.
Premature babies are naturally very jaundice, and Lily was no exception. She had phototherapy during our stay at hospital and I did my best to feed her and maintain her temperature.
These three things that needed to be perfect before we could leave - no jaundice, gaining weight and maintaining her temperature.
For 10 days I held Lily, hoping we’d be home soon. It actually quite got to me, yes, I was so happy she was ok, but I just needed to be at home.
Finally, we got the okay and we could leave! My husband and Max came and we left as a new family of four.
I think I was still in a state of shock.
I read up on premature babies, and there’s a dedicated charity, www.bliss.org.uk who help to raise awareness and money for babies born premature or sick. I wish I’d looked them up beforehand! But I wasn’t to know.
One thing I do know though, is you take each day by day. That’s all you can do. Accept support from those around you. Take deep breaths. It’s a long journey. But it’s pretty amazing when you get there.
Lily, now 8 weeks
Lily Adeline Sophia Fouassier - 15.01.18 5lbs 4oz.
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