Have you grown more confident as a parent
Wednesday, 29 June 2016 | Admin
When Jack was born I remember feeling completely overwhelmed. I had a baby. Someone who would rely on me for the rest of his life. And me? Well I had no idea what I was doing. Despite my best attempts to read every parenting book available, I was still clueless.
Fast forward two years and how have I changed? Well let's take a look.
1) I know that him getting a cold isn't the end of the world.
In Jacks first year of life I used to get concerned about every health issue going. A couple of coughs from Jack, I would panic. Oh no, he's got a cold. Fast forward two years and I now understand that all toddlers get ill at some point. We have had chickenpox, chest infections, colds, coughs and sickness. What's more we've all survived! Yes it's not nice when your toddler is ill but I'm more confident in my understanding of the difference between serious things and minor colds.
2) I know what I'm doing (kind of)
I'm a much more confident parent than I was two years ago. I know what I'm doing (kind of...) As a parent you will know that just as you have one thing sussed - another new experience arrives. Think of potty training, weaning and fussy eating for example. Even if I'm having a bad day, I know that tomorrow will be better. I have a routine and know the basics.
3) I don't concentrate on every milestone
When Jack was smaller, I was aware of every milestone that he would achieve and knew when the 'average' child would achieve it. Whilst I still take a look at toddler milestones every now and again, I don't particularly concentrate on them. I know that by not putting pressure on Jack or getting stressed about milestones, I can concentrate on doing my job as a parent.
4) I can get out of the house quicker
When Jack was smaller, it usually took me longer to get out of the house than the time I was outside for. I took that many items that I probably could have stayed out overnight. Admittedly Jack was having bottles then but even so, now I know exactly what I'm going to need to take for a few hours or a day. I can get out of the house a lot quicker because of this.
I'm a more confident mom now but in many ways I'm winging it. I'm just trying to make it through the day to bedtime where the process starts again.