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Monday, 2 July 2018  |  Admin

Hopping Beds

‘Don’t let them sleep in your bed or you’ll create a rod for your own back’.

Whoever said that certainly never had two ill children at the same time and had an average of 3 hours sleep for 3 days.

Elijah was always a fairly good sleeper but did like the comfort of sleeping in our bed. I didn’t mind as it put my mind at ease with him being so close.

Until him, and his dad both began to snore, and I spent 6 months sleeping on the sofa.

We sleep trained Elijah at 1 year old and other than the odd bad night he has always slept in his own bed.

Fast forward a few years and Harlow seems to despise sleep. Him and sleep have not ever got on, and it is only now after a whole year he is sleeping a bit more. But at 5am he will crawl into our bed, normally on our heads and shout MUUUM MUMM MUMM.

He stirs quite a lot still during the night and is currently in our room with his cot being open sided on one side so he can get into our bed if he wants.

There is just one problem.

Due to his fidgeting and Dad’s snoring… I cannot sleep again.

So, I find myself more often than not crawling into Elijah’s single bed where the risk of being peed on is high.

Both were ill recently so we each took one and slept with them as best as we could, then it just kind of stuck.

Hopping beds was become a nightly occurrence and found it was now disturbing Elijah.

We only have two rooms with the plan that Harlow will go into share with Elijah, but if he wakes which is inevitable will he then begin to wake Elijah up? Will we then have two poor sleepers?

Right now he is close we can bring him into our bed and 80% of the time he will go back to sleep. But it won’t be that easy when he is across the hallway.

Sleep is a parents one true desire, I will throw as much money as I can in hope that it would make the kids sleep through the night in their own beds (I will accept 630 but the golden hour of 7 is the dream).

There is so much conflicting advice with what worked for someone’s friends neighbours baby it can be frankly overwhelming.

One of the best pieces of advice I ever got was if it isn’t a problem for you, it isn’t a problem. You do what you can to survive the night and get as much sleep as you can, bed hopping or not.

Two kids is a new ball game, it isn’t just as easy as them coming in and you scooting to the edge of the bed, rolling over and sleeping. The other will then wake up, then because you’ve got out the bed the baby then wakes up. Alarm clocks, cats and the bin men all seem to wake the light sleepers of the house and let’s just say once Elijah is up… the whole house is up whether they like it or not.

I think for us there may be a few more weeks of bed hopping and early wake ups until we take the plunge to put them in together to see how it goes.

To be continued..

Vicki Cockerill is a NICU/ CHD Mum of two boys, a freelance blogger and social media adviser, Co-Founder of #knackeredandNorwich social club and maternal mental health advocate.